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By Tracing Addiction to Childhood Trauma, Can We Find Compassion?
βOur job, as human beings, is to learn from our suffering.β
βIβve always been a rebel,β Gabor MatΓ© says in The Wisdom of Trauma, a new documentary about the acclaimed physicianβs groundbreaking work in mental health. βIn communist Hungary, in grade six, my teacher wrote in my report card that, βYou should watch it, because he incites the other students.ββ
Nearly 70 years later, although far from the playground, MatΓ© is still doing exactly what his teacher warned of. He is at the forefront of conversations about the long-term effects of childhood trauma, inspiring colleagues to transform the way Western society responds to depression, anxiety, addiction, and other symptoms of deep-seated mental and emotional distress. His 2008 book, , is a seminal work on the subject.
βTrauma is an overwhelming threat that you donβt know how to deal with,β he explains. βOur job, as human beings, is to learn from our suffering.β
It was also in Hungary that MatΓ© had his own formative experience with trauma.
When he was 2 months old, Nazi soldiers marched into Budapest. His Jewish grandparents were sent to Auschwitz and his father to a labor camp. His mother was left living in terror. Just before MatΓ© turned 1, she handed him to relatives who took him into hiding. For six weeks, at this age crucial for development, MatΓ© was separated from his motherβabandoned, in his infant mindβand surrounded by caregivers who had palpable fear for their lives.
It wasnβt until MatΓ© was in his late 30s that he began to process this trauma. As a successful Canadian physician, he was a workaholic, addicted to his patientsβ constant needs for attention. With his beeper going off at all hours of the day, he didnβt have to think about his own life, and he felt needed. But the trauma remained, and, finally, MatΓ© began to understand that keeping the trauma buried through constant work also kept his mind closed to much of his true self and the people who loved him.
For most of the past decade, I lived and worked as a journalist in Vancouverβs Downtown Eastside, the same neighborhood where MatΓ© got his start working with drug users in the early 1990s. In The Wisdom of Trauma, he describes it as βNorth Americaβs most concentrated and most dramatic area of drug use, where thereβs more people injecting and ingesting and inhaling more kinds of substances than anywhere else on the planet.β
Itβs a dense population of poverty and mental illness where IV drug use is tolerated out in the open. There, I witnessed people go to dangerous lengths to hide from their pain. I saw women sell their bodies in dirty back alleys, young men rob and steal from one another, and people shoot so much dope that they overdosed and nearly died. I also saw a community in the Downtown Eastside, as MatΓ© did when he first arrived to work at a supportive-housing project there. βI felt totally at home, right away,β he says in the film.
Of his patients, MatΓ© reports, βThey all suffered tremendous torment as children, which also meant that their addictions were extreme. They were quite willing to sacrifice love, life, relationship, health, just for the next hit. They were that desperate to escape from reality, because reality had been so cruel to them.β
MatΓ© used his work as an escape. His patients escaped by using heroin and other drugs.
βTrauma fundamentally means a disconnection from self,β MatΓ© says. βWhy do we get disconnected? Because itβs too painful to be ourselves.β
In the Downtown Eastside, where so many people had gathered to hide from their pain, MatΓ© helped them connect with the neighborhoodβs community and reconnect with themselves.
The film, produced and directed by Zaya and Maurizio Benazzo of Science and Nonduality, includes many interactions between MatΓ© and his patients. It is remarkable to watch how quickly MatΓ© connects with people, understands where their trauma originates, and begins to help them work through it to find themselves.
In a therapy circle at Chrysalis House in Vancouver, a woman recounts being kidnapped by a taxi driver when she was 16 years old. She was held in a motel room for six months and repeatedly sold off and raped. MatΓ©βs first question for her is about what steps her mother took to find her. βMy mom just thought that I had run away from home,β she replies. βShe didnβt look for me.β
He goes back further, and learns that, beginning when the woman was 5 years old, her father beat her violently with a belt. And again, her mother was not there for her.
βWho did you talk to?β MatΓ© asks.
βNobody,β she replies.
βThatβs the trauma,β MatΓ© says. βBy the time you were 5 years old, you were completely alone.β
Today, MatΓ© sees dislocation from self in every direction he looks, as well as its symptoms, both mental and physical.
Think video games, social media, unrestrained consumerism, compulsive eating, and the overdose crisis, which killed a record 93,000 people in 2020. People are hurting, he emphasizes. Itβs a subject he discusses further in a book scheduled for publication in May 2022, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture.
βOur schools are full of kids with learning difficulties and mental health issues that are trauma-based. But the average teacher never gets a single lecture on trauma,β he says. βThe criminal justice system has no understanding or even acquaintance with the concept of trauma. In fact, they often create policies that further deepen peopleβs trauma.β
One of the more striking scenes in the film is a visit that Fritzi Horstman, founder of the Compassion Prison Project, makes to a maximum-security facility in California. She has dozens of inmates form a large circle and, standing in the center of it, asks the men, βIf a parent or other adult in the household often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or threw something at you, step inside the circle.β Almost every one of them does. βIf you often felt that no one in your family loved you, step inside the circle.β Again, almost everyone moves forward.
Roughly 64% of American prisoners have experienced six or more Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACEs, which health professionals count on a 10-point scale that quantifies a personβs trauma and, with it, their likelihood of developing ailments ranging from cancer to an addiction to opioids.
Once Horstmanβs circle of prisoners is much tighter than when the exercise began, it becomes apparent that these young menβmuscle-bound, tattooed, and maintaining hard staresβare victims of childhood trauma. Instead of offering help, our system confined them to cages, severing their connections to friends, family, and society as a whole.
The Wisdom of Trauma urges its audiences to ask why, collectively, we respond to trauma the way that we do in schools, hospitals, and the criminal justice system.
βChildhood trauma is key,β an unnamed inmate says. βBecause once you understand that, you know you were a child, and you didnβt have help. And if itβs about love, then why are we locking you up?β
Travis Lupick
is a journalist and the author of, most recently, βLight Up the Night: Americaβs Overdose Crisis and the Drug Users Fighting for Survival.β
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